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Why/How Does Love Fade?
Like you and billions of people out there, I would want the love I experience to remain the same way over a long period of time, but that is usually not the case most of the time.
Love is the easiest emotion to share yet so complex to fully comprehend. It is not so straight forward that one person has all the answers on how to keep on how to keep love alive. The same intensity we feel when we first meet someone somehow doesn’t remain the same when tested through time.
A couple of weeks ago, based on a discourse I had with a lot of friends who were all asking one singular question; Why and how does love fade? I decided to carry out a mini-research by putting up that question on my WhatsApp status and within this write- we would learn from what a lot of people think about this.
If a love was true from the onset, it would not fade.
There is some truth to that because sometimes we may be so infatuated that we may confuse that for love. Infatuation is a state of being totally smitten by a person for whom you develop such strong interest which does not have deep attachment. This is so common with so many of us today. We confuse falling in love with a person’s appearance, intellect, or even the idea of “looking good” together to a deep feeling of love. This is the stage where our brain is yet to interpret the reality and buzz with so much fondness that we think,
“Hey I am in love!”
Over a period of time you realize that the initial giddiness gets lost in boredom, dissatisfaction and general lack of contentment. This is the stage we begin to ask, “What happened?”
Well, you never really gave you and your partner the time to find out if you both have deeper attachment or connection beyond what drove you both from the onset. When partners are not compatible, it can never work after a while. The desires and passion will wane over time, and without true interest and attachment, there is nothing to build on. Love built on sand will definitely collapse when the waves wash upon the shore. Take your time to ensure you are not carried away with the idea of being in love, or rush yourself without taking the time to really know a person.
When the love ratio of partners is not the same.
